Finding fulfilment after your breakup: tips for creating a life that you love

Last year, my whole life fell apart. I lost my boyfriend, my home and my job all in one go - and I lost myself in the process.

I recently wrote an article for Tiny Buddha in which I talk about how I went from feeling so utterly lost, stuck and hopeless to the happiest and most fulfilled I've ever been.

I wanted to share it for those of you who are also struggling to find a sense of purpose or direction after a breakup.

You can read the article by clicking here.

Love to you all x

Dating anxiety: how to stop obsessing and start trusting yourself

After my breakup, I dedicated a year of my life to self-improvement. I swore off dating, threw myself into my hobbies, reassessed my goals, and rid my life of all unnecessary drama and distractions. I thought that I finally had it all together. Until I met someone new.

Suddenly, the walls of the inner sanctuary that I'd so carefully constructed came crashing down, taking with them any previous sense of calm, clarity, or comfort. I sat helpless as an army of aggressive butterflies set up camp in my stomach, leaving me breathless, reeling and restless, love-drunk on a poisonous cocktail of lust and longing and loneliness-fuelled fantasies that had me questioning my own sanity.

I was a train-wreck waiting to happen, barrelling full-steam ahead towards destination heartbreak, and I needed to be stopped in my tracks.

Dating after a breakup: how to know if you're ready

When we’re hurting, it's tempting to throw ourselves blindly into something new. And when we've spent so long feeling heavy and hopeless, dating comes as a welcome distraction. But in the midst of those intoxicating chemical highs, it's all too easy to forget that it is only a distraction. The truth is, no one is coming to rescue us from our feelings. We can't date our pain away. And if we're not careful, we might find ourselves repeating the same romantic slip-ups that left us so heartbroken in the first place.

Your pain belongs to you. And if you own it, nurture it and heal it instead of looking for an emotional band-aid in the form of a mildly interesting and semi-available human, you'll be in a much better place to attract the type of love that you actually want.

So when you find yourself questioning whether it's time to move on, how do you know if you're ready?